Am I the only one out there that is relieved that they don't live close to their family?
Sure, I have my days when I miss everyone, but I'm really glad they aren't next door. Or down the street. Or in the next town. It makes visits so much better and relationships more upbeat.
The only person in my family I speak with every day is my Mom. If I don't, she calls me like a like a junkie needing a fix. Since I've had the boy, she calls alot more than she used to. I know more about what is going on in her life and vice versa, but it hasn't necessarily made us closer. She thinks that if I'm not happy with her that I won't allow her to see Turner anymore.
I wouldn't ever do that.
To deny anyone their grandchild without a very good reason is just cruel. But her fear that it would/could happen definitely works in our favor, not gonna lie. She doesn't fuss about the petty things as much and tries to keep her complaining to a minimum. For her, that is a huge feat. I wish I knew why my Mom feels that I would deny her visitation with Turner. It hurts my feelings that she thinks I could be so cold. Maybe because she denied my grandparents visitation of us, she thinks I would do the same. We didn't see our grandparents (her Mom and Dad) for almost 5 years and it was for all of the wrong reasons.
My mom didn't want to admit that she had made a mistake.
Foolish, foolish pride.
I hope I don't do something so wrong in my life that I can't rid myself of the guilt. I don't want to pass that guilt onto my kids and assume that they would make the same choices. I don't' want to live my life burdened by bad decisions.
You know the stuff you said you've forgiven or gotten over?
Mean it.
Do it.
Move past it.
Sometimes it takes alot of work, but believe me, the payoff is sweet. Life is too short to sit around thinking about how we should have done things differently. That's one of the beauties of existence. Every day is a fresh start to moving forward and making things better. Don't let your past weigh you down or you'll never truly have a future.
People that love you, love you unconditionally. It's hard to explain that to someone that is always finding a way to convince themselves that they aren't loved because of a guilty conscience.
In my world, guilt is a mother, literally.
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both of my parents live exactly 424 miles from my front door. In very opposite directions.
I couldn't be happier.
My mother (and inlaws) may take Jacob whenever they please. My father will be allowed to take him, but with some strict conditions after Jake's last visit there. I'm nervous about confronting him, but he didn't respect our parenting and the lessons we teach Jake and I will not allow that from anyone.
No one, NO ONE will contradict the rules and ways of my house. Especially since I am raising my child very closely to the way I was raised in my early years. And when the man who raised me decides to change his ways mid-life, he doesn't have the luxury to get a second chance at indoctrinating a small child just because he thinks his new way is right.
Um, yes. This is about religion. And telling my kid that I didn't make him and don't love him the way he should be loved.
it's nice to have the families 30 minutes away because i agree that space is good. but unfortunately neither of our families are willing to come visit us - we always have to visit them. and that kinda sucks. we live 30 minutes away, not in another freakin state.
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